The best advice of EVERY marriage adviser!
In a recent post (Learn to Love Yourself) on another site, a wife felt that to love her husband unconditionally, she needed to love herself. Her self-criticism centered on how she thought she looked, where she “literally cringed” at her image in the mirror.
My own lovely wife has complained about her appearance, and it was always a surprise to me. I see no flaw in her. But she almost questions my eyesight. As a husband, it used to hurt when I would compliment my wife and not have her believe me when I told her she was beautiful. I often wished she could see the beauty that I see. I felt BLESSED, fortunate—even lucky!—to have her for my wife.
So I have a little question for you women:
Do you like your husband? Do you tell him? If you saw him put on one of your favorite Continue reading
[Note: This was published in the January 2012 Ensign and perfectly fits this website's mission. I've reprinted the article here.]
Having spent my career helping couples strengthen their marriages, I have learned that couples who are experiencing marital troubles often face a twofold problem: they have lost the Spirit of the Lord in their relationship because of contention, and they are not doing the kinds of activities that would bring them closer to each other. Happily married couples do some specific types of things to keep their marriages vibrant and meaningful for both partners. The following ideas may help you and your spouse evaluate and enrich your relationship. Continue reading
Since writing for you IS my work, This will be a short post.
Honey, we’re going out!
Aug. 23, 2011
I urge husbands and fathers of this Church to be the kind of men your wives
would not want to be without. I urge the sisters of this Church to be patient,
loving, and understanding with their husbands. Those who enter into marriage should be fully prepared to establish their marriage as the first priority in their lives.—James E. Faust, “Fathers, Mothers, Marriage,” Ensign, Aug. 2004, 5
Aug. 18, 2011:
It is not my general practice to counsel the sisters to disobey their husbands, but my counsel is—obey your husbands; and I am sanguine and most emphatic on the subject. But I never counselled a woman to follow her husband to the Devil. —Brigham Young, former President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, “Discourses of Brigham Young,” selected by John A. Widsoe. 1941. pp. 200-201
I’ve added a new tab on my website: LDS Marriage Quotes.
than trying to appeal to everyone, I will focus on how being a Latter-day Saint affects my views on marriage. My quotes page is a big part of that, and I want it to illustrate how Mormons view marriage. I’ll look for quotes that teach, inspire, and encourage all of us to make our marriages a priority in our lives.
Marriage is fun! It’s a comfort and a blessing. Sometimes it’s work. Sometimes it’s a trial. Our society is losing faith in marriage. We must restore that faith in our ability to achieve our own happiness through this, the most basic human relationship of all. Marriage remains the foundation of the family, and therefore the foundation of all society. Nothing can replace marriage. Let’s share the answers we find to make marriage brilliant and sound.
So here’s my first quote:
If you choose wisely and if you are committed to the success of your marriage, there is nothing in this life which will bring you greater happiness. —Thomas S. Monson, President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints http://lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/priesthood-power?lang=eng